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its not how to handle manbut it gives you different perspective- and its right about few things
GREAT GREAT BOOK. I LOVE THIS BOOK. THERE SHOULD BE A FEMALE VERSION DON'T JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER. N I WILL SHARED IT WITH EVERY NICE GIRL I KNOW. IS A SELF IMPROVEMENT BOOK IT HELPS UNDERSTAND MEN AND HOW TO COMMUNICATE EFFICIENTLY.
This is sort of a wake up call for the dependent types. The last chapter, however, is the key component to any type of relationship because after all that is what life is about, is not about clinging to your partner all the time is about loving, respecting yourself as a person so that any man/woman can respect you as well. I don't mean to get religious but man of this "world" will be wicked, it is what it is. however, I like to point out if woman fail to state from the beginning, what is it that you really ultimately want in a partner and fail to recognize what you expect from him, he would do just that.
Even if their partner allows them to have a life of their own woman make their new partners the center of their existence AND guess what. Especially in today's society where most of our woman have grown up without a father figure or if we see our mother's tolerating unacceptable behavior from our father's, just to have a man in their lives. Is simply not right and it has to stop. My only advice read the book, don't try too hard, if you find yourself NOT the exception to the rule, RUN. I believe this book is a MUST read, especially if you have been hurt in the past by "jerks" and are in need of some wake up call, however, I do not fully abide by everything Sherry Argov suggests to woman to follow this sort of advice word by word. It has great advice on some levels but some of it, it's a little over the top. When he is gone, they are devastated. Don't get me wrong they are some brothers out there who keep it real in knowing what they want right upfront but that is exactly, Sherry's "exception to the rule", the one who aint playing the "usual" games that most of our man do.
They are so many brothers who consider themselves gentleman nice type of guys yet they still play games on their woman all the time. And for the rest of us who know best not to let a man walk all over us, it is reassuring us we are doing the right thing. And if you do, embrace him. A lot of woman go along to get along thinking that's the right thing to do. They feel that because they did sooooooo much, dedicated time and effort they weren't gonna be left behind. For guys of course it is going to be maddening for this sort of advice to be publish especially if they`re out there playing games, expecting things to run their way, you know typical "macho" society."Why man love Bitches" gives woman how to have a voice of their own.
For example, the whole "maintain your space don't let him know relationships are your goal", I know that many man find woman more desirable if the pressure is off in wanting a relationship especially right from the start. I ultimately, strongly believe Sherry Argov meant to wake up the ones who try toooo hard to please man all the time and at the end they get dump and FAST. How to not go out of your way the extra mile especially if he has not step up to the plate and shown you what he really is made of because believe me they are man out there if your let yourself be treated like a doormat he will walk all over you.Books like this are written for a reason, to put stupidity on check, even the nice guys too. I know so many woman who diss their girls, cancel plans, exclude themselves out of reality just to be with their partner. Sherry Argov suggest how to hold your OWN relationship (if you don't already have one) how to be an independent woman so that man see you as an equal and how all those special things you want to do for them hold it off until they have EARN IT.
This book has taught me to pace myself at the beginning of a relationship to figure out if the guy is worth my time and my emotions. Which was a good thing - because I was pretty miserable in that relationship. This is a great book for women like me who tend to fall too hard, too fast. Once I asked him to stepup in even the most minor way, he was out.
Oh how I wish I bought this book sooner. It really helps to pinpoint the guys who are seriously interested and those who are just in it for the sport. I don't feel a "connection" with many men, but when I do it's instant and intense and I tend to jump in with both feet. It could have saved me a lot of time and pain over the past several years.
And now I know not to spend any more time dating him. Highly recommend this book for all single women who feel that they never really get what they want or need out of a relationship. I'm not saying it will make every man fall in love with you - in fact I tried these techniques on a guy I was dating recently and he promptly stopped calling. I stopped trying so hard and in doing so, realized the only reason we were still seeing each other was because *I* was doing all the work.
Forget the book The Rules and buy this. I have re-read this book so many times and love it. I learned a lot from it and it's the only dating book you will ever need.
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